On this week’s episode of human2human with Stacy Ike, we have licensed therapist, father, husband, and thought leader, Kier Gaines! Kier and Stacy dive deep into the curiosity of friendships: how they change over the years, updating your friends about your life changes, and the excitement of attending friend therapy.

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SHOW NOTES | KEY TAKEAWAYS:

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00:00 - Intro

01:14 - Song of the week

01:21 - Book of the week

01:25 - Reflection Question - How have you shown up for your friendships in the past and how would you like to show up in your friendships moving forward?

02:07 - Kier talks about making new friendships in 2022

05:18 - What happens when you’re bothered by something a friend did but you don’t address it at that moment?

09:00 - Season Question - Have you learned anything about yourself through friendships?

12:58 - Kier dives into updating each other on our new operating systems within a relationship

14:35 - “You can’t measure the amount of change that’s happening in a person” - Kier Gaines

14:55 - Why do we oversimplify the concept of relationships?

16:00 - How to trust your friend’s reflections of you

16:44 - How to respect a person for who they are

18:51 - “Giving people the benefit of the doubt through growth” - Kier Gaines

20:09 - Are expectations in friendships a problem?

21:20 - Kier talks about taking personal responsibility in your relationships

22:30 - Kier speaks on turning a close friendship into an acquaintanceship

28:08 - Kier talks about one of his favorite therapists @kobecampbell_

28:17 - Kier dives into doing the work versus doing self-care

29:17 - What ingredients make up a quality friendship?

36:06 - What does doing the work look like in relationships?

36:44 - Kier talks about why therapy is important and being realistic about your journey to self-awareness

38:19 - Kier speaks to the importance of friendship therapy

40:00 - Kier talks about the difference between men and women within the mental health space

42:38 - Honest Gems

What is something they don't tell us about being a good friend?

What is something they don't tell us about personal growth within friendships?

What is something they don't tell us about navigating life with transitions to win friendships?

48:45 - Kier on making new friends at this time in his life

52:17 - Kier advises on how to organically make new friends

54:33 - “Shouts out the people who are consciously overcoming mistrust and distrust of people and making new friends” - Kier Gains

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CREDITS:

Executive Producer: Stacy Ike

Producer: Paris McCoy

Associate Producer: Emma Jackson

Audio Engineer: Brian Shaffer

Theme Music: Pieces by “After The Fall"

Music released by: Chill Out Records

Post Production Audio: The Revolt Podcast Network

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